I decided I needed a new hobby. Something I can do at home, but does not involve computers as I already spend way too much time online. So I picked up an electric guitar (Epiphone Les Paul) and will sign up for lessons this weekend. The style I wish to learn is, of course, The [...]
I just read an interesting article on “forgiving” and how men and women differ when it comes to forgiving. One passage stood out:
“What we found is that when men recalled their own offenses, they were more likely to empathize and then forgive. But they had to do that emotional work first,” she says. “When the [...]
We’re all guilty of fixating on some things. I’m certainly guilty of that. My ex has always had a very nasty habit of fixating on one bad thing in something and making it the entire point, ignoring everything else. Thus I expect nothing good from an email I recently sent that did mention a few [...]
I was doing ok for a couple of months. Then yesterday, without warning, I began feeling a profound sense of sadness. At first I didn’t know why. I have a great job. I have good friends. Something, however, is missing. I have no one to share it with. No one close. No one who cares [...]
I’ve been divorced for a few months now. I’ve been separated for a year and a half. I had hoped that by now I would be over her. That I would stop loving her.
I was wrong.
They say time heals all wounds. No, it doesn’t.
I recently had a spousal support hearing. I could have been a real bastard and left my ex with little or no spousal support and half the bills. However, I felt that was wrong and offered her a deal. I would take on all of the outstanding debt (which is quite substantial) but not pay [...]
My wife had this to say in a comment (instead of answering the numerous questions I asked of her),
As long as you are wasting mental and emotional energy on trying to live in the past you have no chance to get better.
I am forced to admit, there is a lot of truth in [...]
Most of the time I do ok. Occasionally, however, I’m overwhelmed by a complete sense of loss and loneliness. This is one of those times. I miss my wife so much it hurts, and I know it’s forever.
I am now seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist. The psychiatrist says I am suffering from depression and very long term stress. I have been prescribed one drug for the depression and another for the reacurring panic attacks I have been getting since the weekend.
I wonder if my wife will care enough for this to [...]
It’s over. There’s nothing more I can do. My wife refuses to discuss anything. My wife refuses to see me. She has moved out. She says she got a restraining order. I don’t know why that was necessary.
I thought we were going to try to work things out, but the temporary separation was a lie. [...]