I just read an interesting article on “forgiving” and how men and women differ when it comes to forgiving. One passage stood out:
“What we found is that when men recalled their own offenses, they were more likely to empathize and then forgive. But they had to do that emotional work first,” she says. “When the [...]
Since my ex threatened me with a libel suit, I thought I’d save her the bother of filing a case and wasting her money by pointing out why she would lose such a case. There are many defenses against a libel suit. I’ll cover the ones that apply to me.
Truth is an absolute defense in [...]
My ex, Ildiko, had this to say in a recent email:
I was told to get my daughter and myself out of our brutally toxic environment that lead her to drinking and drug use!
She was told that by amateurs. People who had no training in family counseling. Who had limited knowledge of the situation, and who’s [...]
Too often, after emailing her or posting something here, my ex would reply with something along the lines of, “anyone who could say such a thing couldn’t possibly care about me or my daughter.” I’m still trying to figure that out. If I’m all niceness I’m, at best, ignored, more likely she would find [...]
Just before we separated, my wife started wearing a ring that had been given to me by a friend. I had that ring in my possession for over twenty years and it holds much sentimental value. I told her, “you are welcome to wear it, but please don’t lose it as it is irreplaceable.” [...]
I’m so miserable without you, it’s almost like you’re here. Unknown
I just had another birthday. I tried my best to avoid it, but it turns out it’s impossible to stop time.
There’s only one person who I really wanted to hear from on that day, but I would be surprised if she remembered the occasion or cared even if she did.
We’re all guilty of fixating on some things. I’m certainly guilty of that. My ex has always had a very nasty habit of fixating on one bad thing in something and making it the entire point, ignoring everything else. Thus I expect nothing good from an email I recently sent that did mention a few [...]
My ex just gave me some information that tells me that she is now in deep financial shit. So bad, that she’s having difficulty buying basic necessities such as food. Recently she had been complaining about some long past financial stuff that had been settled when the court signed off on our divorce. I’m not [...]
I spent most of the weekend driving. An old friend of mine had her 50th birthday and made it a point to request my presence. I could not refuse, of course. The drive, however, was not fun. 400 miles alone (each way) leaves lots of time to think. I forced myself to thing of happy [...]